moni_k
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Registered: 28/06/07
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hi guys!
just a post to see if someone can help us please?
our son who is 3and a half soon has not been taught to toilet train until now, basically, we felt the need to just see when he was getting a bit annoyed with nappies sort of pulling at them etc,. so started last week, at first he was adamant and totally fearful of even sitting on the potty or toilet, (we got one of those seats to put under big one, and a stool to hop up), we had to resort to bribary, ouch! to get him to even sit on them by giving him a snake, (lolly). that worked, so started taking nappy off all day and putting undies on, which he has no prob with and was putting a nappy on for midday sleeps and night time sleeps! he held alot and did a few on the carpet etc which we said doesnt matter at all, and in car seat, but now, from when he gets up in morning and we take the nappy off, until lunch sleep bout 1pm he will hold his wee.and his poos, till his tummy aches and till he is busting and still wont go! he will hop on the loo, not that willingly though and doesnt let it go, so gets off , flushes washes hands etc, all really well, puts pants back on etc. so now, he held till just then from 1pm this arvo, even in the bath he wants to get out immediately cause the warm water wants to make him wee, he wont go on the grass, at the beach anywere, just in his nappy.he seems to have major major fear and anxiety about it all, but when the nappy goes on he immediately lets his wee go, and i have said, see , you can do it, and he agrees. its so frustrating and i know we are not supposed to get angry, but i am asking for help, as we are getting really angry and frustrated by this and so i know now that this would have added to his stress and made it worse! we are shocking, sorry, just know i am not supposed to raise my voice etc, what can we do?
i have a friend who constantly goes on about him not being out of nappies yet etc etc and has really put me off her, i wouldnt ever dare to be oppinionated to anyone even if i thought it, so that hurts too. sorry for rambling, i know its not life threatening or anything, just needed to talk to someone who can help .
thanks again. monique |
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TerriHardwick
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Registered: 24/07/05
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Try not to take on board what your friend says. This is the kind of guilt trip that goes no where and is baseless. What matters is you are doing all you can, and yes, sometimes we get frustrated and yell...it happens to ALL of us. Don't beat yourself up. My advice is to keep the nappies on for now. I know you think he should be trained, it won't happen till he gets over his anxiety. Take the pressure off for at least 4-6 weeks. In the meantime, use pretend play with the teddies to model going to the toilet, without making a big deal of it. I think toilet training is one are that needs to be child-initiated. When he is ready, he will let you know. Don't compare your son to others. Just look at the big picture. If you have any other concerns, visit your early childhood clinic and get some tips from them. Just beliveve its not the end of the world that he's still refusung to use the potty. For some children it is a huge deal.
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